There is a Michael Jackson song entitled “Man in the mirror”. The chorus says “I’m looking at the the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways”.
My question is right to the point. WHAT HAPPENED?!!!!!!
My friend called me whining about how her dude took advantage of her. Let me set the scene. She met this guy, who at first she was not even attracted to, but settled because his friend was not giving her a second look…first sign of trouble, you settled. After she found out this dude wasn’t about anything, she decided to “help him because he was trying”…translated….I gave it up, now I am attached to this man emotionally because of a soul tie, can’t shake him, so now I am going to try and make him into the man I REALLY WANT !!! Can someone hit the buzzer for me? ANGGGGGGGGGGGGGG! WRONG MOVE ! First of all, you cannot change a person, that person must have a desire to change and make actions toward doing so.
Wait a minute. It gets worse. She goes and CO-SIGNS for this clown a car, gets him a cell phone (what man in this day and age does not have his own freakin’ cell phone ?!!!!! I guess this one didn’t !!!), starts buying this brother clothes, etc. It gets worse, hold on. THEN, finds out that he is still dealing with his childrens’ mother, and has the nerve (as she would say) to keep going back and forth. My friend then said, “What is wrong with him? I am the better woman. I got a better paying job, I don’t have a bunch of kids, and I am holding it down. Why would he want to go back to her and she is on welfare?”. I then stated that it was not what was wrong with him, but the question is WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU ?!!! When did your self esteem go down the toilet !!!!
Some women keep getting the same old losers because they are so pressed to have someone !!! These type of men require too much maintenance. But to put it bluntly, they don’t require any maintenance at all on my part. They are losers and should be placed in the pile where they belong. Why are you putting your credit at risk (if he has not jacked it up already and putting your livelihood on the line for a man who wants a free ride?!!!
In the end this brother did not pay for the car (it got repossessed and my friend got sued for that), the cell phone bill was sky high (she is still paying for that), and guess where clown is…you guessed it, right with his babies momma!!!
The Word states “For as he thinks in his heart so is he.” “Eat and drink!” he says to you, But his heart is not with you” ! Translated….the way you feel about yourself, that is the way he is treating you. He does not care about the sleepless nights (unless you are giving him sex), the creditors calling, and the struggle. He is treating you as if you are desperate because that is the way you are coming across. Guess what? He is right. We determine how people treat us. If we let people walk over us and treat us like dirt, why should we be mad at them? We set the scene.
Look in the mirror girl. What do you see? Do you think God is pleased with your mess. Putting some lump of nothing BEFORE HIM. My father on his death bed said something so profound, the nurses thought it was the medication, I knew it was God. He said, “Jesus weeps for those who make His way hard”. So true. We make it so hard for God to bless us with the right people in our lives because we cannot wait for His timing. He TRIES TO BLESS US, but since he is the perfect gentleman, he WILL NOT go against your will”. Go ahead, keep messing with the crumbs, you will never get the whole loaf.